I don't know if I got it right, but do you mean it in a "reality check" sense? If they resist even though they're wrong it's because they're really wrong and it's not really my fault to paint them black?

The more you guys talk about it, the more I relate. However, it still confuses me because I'm always reading examples of splitting as something more extreme.
Then I was reading these two links here and thought "****, that sounds a lot like me". To be honest I'm still more inclined to deny what I do as splitting than not, partially because I'm so contained to myself that it's hard to believe I really do it. "I kinda do it" is ok but the "I really do it" thought makes me dizzy.

https://bpdtransformation.wordpress....oughts-on-dbt/
http://aapel.org/bdp/BLsplittingUS.html (this one is mostly in french, though)

It's hard for me to see I'm inflexible. Even now I still don't completely believe it, because I'm one to defend change and carefreeness, but it seems I can't deal with it very well? I really require significant others to have a steady behaviour towards me, like an emotional routine. I feel easily vulnerable to rejection and will conjecture the craziest things, assume the worst and push people away.