Also, to update everyone. The man I love that was molested as a child, and had been distancing himself. I gave him some time. Finally I broke the ice with a little humor. He began talking to me again. This time he brought up the abuse he suffered. It is becoming a little, (little) easier for him to talk about to me. I said you can't forgive me but you can forgive only members of your family that hurt you in your life, those people you forgive and stand by no matter how horrible the things they do to you are. I haven't done anything like that at all, and you can't forgive me can you? He said no I guess not. I love my brother. (meaning the one that abused him) A few days later, out of the blue, he called me up and asked me out for a date! I have no idea what caused him to change his mind after this amount of time, and I'm not asking. He didn't change his mind. He was a little nervous, but he didn't cancel, we went out, had a good time, and he has started talking about a future again. We'll see if it happens or if he takes off running again. I'm hoping all of the praying has helped. I also help that someone will cross paths with him that has been through the same thing as him. I keep praying that God will help him with these issues. I'm happy he is allowing me into his life again. When he lets down the wall we have the greatest time. His sense of humor, and our conversation is never ending.