It sounds like the woman is trying to move in with him slowly. She probably is disrespecting his boundaries. She shouldn't be cleaning out his stuff or trying to redecorate his home yet. But its still a problem if he is allowing her to do this. Something is going on, even if he claims otherwise.

I used to have a bf who had female "friends" calling him up all the time. I knew they were acting desperate, but I also knew he was spending time with them. Then I found out he had a match.com account.