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Originally Posted by newday7121
I had a very traumatic religious experience mainly because of lack of communication. That's it the failure of people that was more healed than I to keep me informed. Today, I will have none of that from an religious church. It is very easy for me to forgive, I have bigger fish to fry rather than having this real big vendetta against a church. Given all of the variables to easy to see how this could have happened. It got worst outside of the church in neighborhoods where I lived in 2013, when they took that saying 'being your brother's keeper' the wrong way. Sometimes people's concern and protection is really meant as hate. There were words thrown my way not nice words in the church joins and kid like behavior. No body got psychically contacted, although one time it was close.
I say, trust the Lord lean not to your own understanding and a direct path is what we pray for. Forgive, move on. If necessary bring this part of you into therapy to discuss. I don't think a T can make your religious decisions, but the man thing is personal forgiveness. In the Bible showing you how none of us are perfect but also removing yourself from a toxic situation, church included. It is ashamed especially for those who grew up with religion and hold those ones to higher standards. I can understand how that would have you shaken but get yourself back out there, there are plenty of churches doing the right thing!
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Hey newday. You were very polite and encouraging, but I'm still really rather uncomfortable with this response, so I'm going to bow out of this thread.
Peace out, OneInBillions. I hope you find an answer beyond the, "Sure, religion can and has been a source of trauma in horrible ways that get ignored or brushed under the rug *cough*
Crusades/Inquisitions/Witchtrials/colonizationofAmerica/PrayCamps/and overtabuseandmicro-aggressionsthatarejustifiedbybiblepassages*cough* because the vast majority of the populace identify as practitioners of this religious sect," that you would get from me, or the "But have you tried other churches because- you know, God would want you to be in a church," that you might start to get from other posters. Neither is really going to help your issues.
If you have a T you can bring it up with them if you're comfortable discussing religion with them, but your best bet is to find out whether religion is a thing you need in your life and what all options are available. If religion is something that makes you uncomfortable in conversation, feel free to ask people to excuse you while you step out, or consider learning about other coping methods that are good for PTSD in general. It'll take some time and research on your part, but making an informed decision to choose what you believe and what you don't might be an option for dealing with any bad experiences you had with religion in the past. Maybe you should take a step back and read up on different religions to find one that fits, or you might choose not to have a religion at all. Have you ever heard of "Free Will"? Not the concept, but the song by Rush, I mean.
"You can choose a ready guide in some celestial voice
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice
You can choose from phantom fears and kindness that can kill
I will choose a path that's clear
I will choose freewill"