Back story - going through a separation after 23yrs of marriage. Trying to work on it. *fingers crossed* but i have other issues beside being clinically depressed.

Writing to yourself is great therapy. I send myself long text messages and even e-mail myself. Helps me vent and get my feelings off my chest WITHOUT telling them how I really feel at the moment and pushing them even farther away or offending a friend. Plus, I can look back at what I've texted or written to myself later on and process/reflect on those feelings That I had at the time when I'm a bit more "stable". I still have those feelings, but can look at them a bit more rationally.

Another option is actually find someone else who is neutral or can understand where you're coming from and bounce things off them for fresh perspective. I have one person who is NOT a mutual friend that I occasionally bounce ideas and feelings off of. And they sometimes do the same back at me. AND we occasionally just text to check up on each other to see how we're doing.