bellaviolet - i lost my Mom to cancer and everyday i miss her. what i do on her birthday, mother's day, christmas, or any other time i am really missing her is to remember what she cherished most and then make a donation to an agency that helps - like for her birthday this year i gave to the ocean conservancy and to save the children. i give it in my Mom's name and it seems to help me because i am helping causes that she loved and i am letting others know her name. hope this helps.