Incidentally, when asking about whether it would have been OK to call at midnight in my situation, I had told my marriage counselor I wasn't sure if he would have been mad. He asked what I thought would happen if I called him late at night a few times in a row for something that didn't constitute a crisis. I said I figured he'd either block my number or tell me to stop ****ing calling him. He said it bothered him that I thought he'd have that reaction. He said he wouldn't cut me off or be angry but would talk to me about when appropriate situations to call would be. So basically, if I thought something was bad enough to warrant a call, it was OK to call. I'm guessing most T's are like that. They'd rather you call than not. I mean, if you're at the point of thinking you want to call/text (or request an emergency appointment), then better to try reaching out. (My T has basically said the same.)

(I guess MC sort of proved that comment by not seeming annoyed about a 3 am text when I was really upset but not technically in crisis a few weeks ago. He replied very kindly the next day.)