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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
I wonder if you were so desperate for care from T1 precisely because you didn't receive it? I wonder if her distance simply brought up a lot of childhood abandonment issues and fueled the problems rather than healing them?
I have a feeling that in time you will be able to accept T2's care and in turn show more compassion for yourself. It may be a very healing experience for you.
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Agree. T1 only told me once that she cared and then would just ask why I don't feel she does. When I asked her to reassure me she said "don't make me regret saying it the first time". I said "if you really feel something, why would you ever regret saying it". I will never forget that moment. I guess she doesn't tell people that much so maybe she regretted it? So, yes, the distance didn't help.
I've also told myself maybe this is exactly what I need but I hate that it's hard for me to accept.