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Old Sep 29, 2015, 09:45 AM
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Originally Posted by missatomicbomb View Post
i'm having trouble with my feelings... or lack of them. the thing is when it comes to relationships i just can't feel anything for anyone, even if they show interest in me. everyone seems to have lots of crushes... but i don't. i went on a date with this guy who was really sweet the whole time but i felt nothing at all. it's like i don't have a heart. i also have trouble believing in anything they say to me. it seems like my trust issues have reached a whole other level.

that happens with friendships as well. i have a friend i have deep affection for, and that's all. can't connect with anyone else

has anyone been through something like that? i don't know why i'm so closed up like that, but i end up completely alone and unhappy
This is an old post, but I wanted to reply.

If we're only talking romantic relationships, you could be asexual and/or aromantic. Nothing wrong with that

Now you say you have "deep affection" for a friend. That sounds like a connection to me - why do you disagree? What's lacking that you think you should have?

I have a sort of similar issue, in not being able to connect with people on any kind of deeper level, my relationships are mostly superficial. Yet I want it, maybe even idealize it, but shut down as soon as there's a possibility of it being a reality. I've asked about it here, and some think it's a type of fear of intimacy. So that's a possibility.