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Originally Posted by lolagrace
I don't think he found it helpful to tell me not to worry when often the things I worried about had no easy fix and were pretty justified: my husband's health, my sister, my kids, etc. Instead, he focused on helping me find some perspective, helping me stay in the present with what was going on rather than getting too far ahead of myself, find ways to look at a current situation differently so I could truly find some peace of mind rather than him just saying the words "Don't worry" as if they would magically actually do anything . . .
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I totally agree with you Lolagrace. In my case I meant my t kept telling me "don't worry" about her leave. "Don't worry I'll be back soon", or "I might leave a bit earlier (because of an event that we cannot control) but you do not worry, I'm still close here and have a cellphone anyway". This was the sort of things, how she thinks her leave would be affecting me - which I tried not to show but, given the facts, I don't know., I think I meant reassurance in the relationship.
I would never stay with a T who said don't worry about the things I bring up in therapy, that for sure [emoji33]