As a child this is when we learn and adapt to who we will become. When left, or hurt or whatever other cause happened as we were in the molding stage is why we are who we are in life. I probably am different then a normal person(LOL) in that I don't put much time into others when it comes to understanding or compassion. When my wife tells me things that most would probably so ohhh, I laugh. Not because I am an evil person, it's because this to me usually means nothing as it directly has no impact on myself (lack of empathy I suppose). The facade is there many times as I do adapt very well to the situation. Meaning I give what's expected to benefit my own-self, the facade!! When it comes to my family I do care in a way that has never been before. This family I talk of is only my wife and kids. What I think is if your mother is like me than she does care about you, her ways of showing it would never be of the norm or accepted ways as with this disorder and others they just don't follow the rules. People expect feelings to be shown in ways that people are comfortable and used to. We are trained to believe that based on someone else's ideals we are to act that way. All ways are ONLY based on someone else's expectations and when someone like ME is different I am wrong only based on another's definition made up by yet another person. We are who we are, most fit in the mold while others don't. We have our ways of doing things that are accepted by ourselves and because this is not part of the definition made by another we are not right. Who know's maybe timing only defined people like me as the one disordered, what if I went back a 1000 years ago and re-wrote the definition as myself. I may be the right one after all!!!!! 2015 new definition of right equates to what I believe and all not like me are wrong and unacceptable.