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Being gentle with one another's pacing is, I think, an essential part of building a good relationship's foundation, because while people can be well matched it's hardly possible for each person's needs around pacing to happen to be perfectly matched. We're all coming from different bodies of experience and perceive the process somewhat differently. Rising to the opportunity to show genuine patience with one another's needs around pacing tends to result in great benefits in the long run, in my experience.
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.”
— Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
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