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Originally Posted by popuri88
My first impulse when I read that "do you think of people as good or bad" question is to think it doesn't make sense at all, but when I read real situations where splitting happens I just relate completely. There are other threads about splitting on this forum.
For example, if I don't hear from my boyfriend the whole day and I call him to find out he's just fine and wasn't busy and all I will get angry, assume that he forgot me, that he never really liked me and that he's probably giving attention to someone else, maybe soon he'll be cheating me or something. It's a really overwhelming feeling that makes me assume the worst about him and want to detach fom him.
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Hm I have never had this issue primarily because I never really managed to connect with any of my ex bf's but I remember feeling a bit depressed by a guy regularly not texting me back and me deciding I should not even text any guy much anymore. And I did keep to this decision.
This was a very long time ago. So I guess the difference between me and BPD people is that I'm not able to get angry about romantic interests, I just detach automatically when I perceive rejection or abandonment and then there is no turning back.
If I could actually feel in love then maybe I would get angry in your situation but only if he acts nonchalantly and does the whole thing regularly and spends significantly more time with others / gives significantly more of his attention to others.