There is something really wrong with this "good friend" of yours. She has some severe self-esteem issues of her own. She wants you to feel very grateful to her for accepting you, like she is doing you a big favor by accepting you.

You have two good options for handling this. One is for you to dump her as a friend. Another, which I think is even better, is to just tell her to knock it off. Just flat out tell her to stop, when she starts this kind of talk. Tell her to either stop or leave your presence. Say, "You're talking crap and I have no time or interest to listen to it." You'll shock her because she wants you to be insecure. That way she can feel she has power over you. She wants that power because she is insecure. Come right out and say, "I'm just fine exactly the way I am."