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Old Jul 31, 2007, 07:03 PM
spal spal is offline
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Boy, when it rains, it pours, doesn't it?

I think that a mental health day is in order. All these things are beyond your control. Sucky things just happen ... it is, unfortunately, part of life. They are temporary, however, it's not an indication of a larger grander pattern that your life will follow.

You say that you've never had problems with depression but you are feeling down so maybe you are depressed. I think it would be helpful to tell your therapist everything that you have said here. Tell him/her that the group therapy is not working after six months and ask her to put you in another group. Or you can express to the group what has been going on in your life and see how they respond and decide if you want to stick with them. There is no law that says that you have to make something work that is not working.

Medication may be something that will help you, even on a temporary basis if your feelings are overwhelming you to the point of not being able to function without a whole lot of pain. Talk to your T about this.

If you were a good worker and well-liked, you will get another job. Everyone is on vacation right now. You don't know where your CV is going. It could be considered right now by someone.

And as for your lover ... yeah, that really sucks and there's no point pretending that you're okay about it. However, you can't stay indoors for fear of running into him. Try and connect with friends one on one or in small groups in places where you know that he won't be around. Invite people to your place to watch videos. Just take small steps to share what you are feeling with people that you trust. Together people only exist on TV.

All of this is temporary. Just say this to yourself. All of this is temporary. It's okay to feel what you feel. You can share this with people. There is nothing shameful about being in pain when life gives you some nasty blows. This too shall pass. Hang in there.