I have a hard time with these kinds of things because I never know what EXactly a grudge or forgiveness means in these things....in these ways....so yeah I try to be forgiving and no hold grudges and I feel like I succeed.

But I can't just delete these events from my life and I cannot erase all evidence of emotional pain from them....

so i don't know

i think probably my short answer is yes

and i think it is normal to hold grudges.

perhaps it even serves a healthy protective purpose in certain situations.