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Originally Posted by BudFox
I seem to have major issues with attachment rejection and abandonment (plus more recent traumas and losses). The reason I question whether therapy can help me is that my ex T was very adept at bringing out these terrible needs and deficits, but once exposed she did not know what to do and ended up pushing me out the door. This left me profoundly disillusioned and devastated.
Trying to find a new T after that, given that the immediate issue was now harm from prior therapy, became something of a nightmare.
At this point it is unclear to what extent therapy merely uncovered these issues, versus actually inducing them.
What are the issues you need help with?
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What do you mean by she ended up pushing you out the door? Did she send you away? Why on earth?
As for uncovering vs inducing an issue, I think there are issues that are buried from the conscious mind, are dormant and perhaps inactive yes but it doesn't mean that if you find access to them that you actually induce them because 1) it was already causing other issues anyway, everything is connected in the brain 2) there is no guarantee it would not have been awakened later in life either suddenly in some other setting or over time gradually.
Just my opinion.
My issues, hmm, I have some old coping mechanism resembling schizoid PD that no longer works consistently - it used to work for 10+ years - and that left me unstable mentally/emotionally. You could say that such a dormant inactive issue as mentioned above was awakened suddenly in a life setting.
I do think that that coping mechanism was just hiding issues with rejection and abandonment in general. What does attachment rejection mean in your case? Do you reject others or do you fear others rejecting you?