Then again it absolutely might just work. IF the person receiving the request has enough trust in the person relaying the message.


I wasn't as intense as the bf being described here, but I too needed reassurance, way too often, and seemingly without reason.


Bf and I had a good talk, he reminded me that he's a very honest and direct person, and that if I ever did do something that threatened our relationship, or if there was something else threatening it, well he assured me that I would be the first to know.


No beating around the bush.


That was admittedly not an easy pill to swallow, but I trust him, and I managed to swallow the damn pill with a little creativity.


I created an evidence box full of mementos, emails, cards, rose petals, etc that served to remind me that he wasn't about to run.


In time I needed the evidence less and less and now I don't at all.


Me learning to take my bf's word for it (plus my secret weapon) helped our relationship immensely. I no longer feel like there's a timer attached to us and that I have to check in with him to gauge how much longer we have.