Hi, thanks for posting and Im sorry you are suffering like this. In my case I have never been suspicious of my gf..just random people and 'secret societies sending me secret messages that they are 'out to get me'. I have a lot of insight but sometimes my mind gets carried away, like yours.

Do you generally believe that you wife (who obv knows you have mental health issues) would go out of her way to flirt with people around you - as in deliberately make you paranoid etc? It is very very very unlikely that anyone would do that. Most people who have affairs make sure they do it in secret and wouldnt actively flirt in from of their partner. What does she say when you confront her? It must be difficult for her to always be accused and could be causing strain on your relationship.