*Carrie stands up to give Melty a standing ovation!* Outstanding work woman. I am so happy for you. You are an inspiration. I am glad things are looking up. Keep at it. What you are doing is called Love and Logic. Everything has a consquence and if what needs to be done doesn't get done then the not-doer has a bummer of a time because the things he wants to do is out of the question until the thing that needs to be done is done. It is used mainly for kids but I find it works well with spouses as well. Basically it is saying what is acceptable for you and not backing down from it. I am so happy for you.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson