wow what a hard situation and very confusing...first sorry for your loss of your mother.

Im confused...

your mother took care of you financially
your mother told you when to brush your teeth
your mother told you when to take your meds
your mother made sure you ate every day
your mother forced you to take showers....

you are 33 and these things are things that parents do for very young children not fully grown adults....unless that adult has been declared incompetent to make their own physical and mental health decisions...

so im assuming here your mother felt you were incompetent to make your own mental and physical health decisions. I havent read any of your past posts so no idea whether this was court mandated guardianship\conservatorship situation with you.

my confusing is if your family had to take care of you like this how is it that they think you are capable of caring for them now that your mom is gone when before she died you were not able to take care of your self...you lived with your mom and they obviously knew your mom was caring for you, having someone so dependent like this is not something that is able to be hidden from family, especially if the dependent is a grown adult living with mom and mom footing all the bills and basic nutritional and hygienic (bathing\showering) needs and other finances of the dependent adult.

my suggestion would be contact a treatment provider, they can help you get into an adult residential program for you and your children that will help you to learn how to do those things for yourself which your mother was doing for you, that way your family wont try to step in and have you court mandated into removal of your children and you committed to a psychiatric facility due to your inability to care for yourself and your childrens needs.