Separation for me was not just a legal term. My wife and I were " separated " long before it became legal. I had mental and physical problems that dated back YEARS. My thinking is that two people never become one and therefore are always separated. We all are individuals looking for that ' soul mate ' so to speak. That one person we wind up loving and then marry. But being individuals incline us to different interests. When that happens the interest we had for each other wanes and the new interests take priority.
After awhile there seem to be very little common interests and the separation
, if married , can turn into one or the other wanting out ,hence the divorce. Getting out is much harder than getting in. legal proceedings are involved.
That who was once loved so much becomes our adversary. For ME a divorce has to be FINAL , like death. I could never just be friends with my ex. When it's over it's over. A divorce hurts everybody except the one who wanted to end it. The one who has what seems like " no feelings " and the other too much. This is just part one of a long story. Can anyone relate ?