By having a counsellor, you are already further progressed than my mum. We haven't spoken since March. I am quite confident she is sat at home, crying and feeling unloved, rejected and hurt. She has also done Jack S*** to change the situation. She is CPTSD, narcissistic, and borderline (my own diagnosis - she refuses to accept that her vile temper, decades long refusal to believe I love her, her irrational outbursts and violence, and desperately low self image are anything other than perfectly normal). The only way we will get our relationship back on track is if I am willing to ignore her behaviour, and carry on as if nothing happened. Im not willing to do that - Im in T and dealing with my own CPTSD caused at least in part by her behaviour. If she's not willing to change her behaviour towards me, I have to cut her out - for my own sanity. I would love for her to think about my feelings for once.

I have to say it does worry me here seeing so many mums concerned their daughters aren't being there for them. What about the other way round? What have you done to be there emotionally for your daughters? If it is all about your expectations of what you think your daughters should be doing for you... Well, to be frank, I completely sympathise with your daughters. You might be old, but you still have it in you to pick up the phone, and be there emotionally for your daughters. To listen, to care. To not make demands, and to love your daughters for who they are, not who you want them to be.

Have you tried to make contact with your daughters? My mum hasn't phoned, emailed, texted or anything. I've heard how hurt she is, how heart broken. But she hasn't actually done anything to contact me. She has however, twisted a lot of things to make me sound awful, to have other people in the family turn against me and think Im just the worst daughter ever. Its like she's pushing me away on purpose. Lets face it, Im hardly going to go running in to the arms of someone who demonises me - saying please, let me help you through your old age!

When you talk about your daughter, what do you say?