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Originally Posted by WifeofBPD
I agree with this! One thing I have noticed about my husband is that when he is always quick to say that I am angry over issues that arise. I am an emotional person and wear my emotions on my sleeve, but I rarely get angry. Frustrated, yes. Annoyed, yes. But I don't hit angry or pissed off very often. He is quicker to anger and always seems to project those emotions on to me. Either that or its how he was conditioned by his mother growing up (she is quick to anger too..possible bp or bpd) Regardless, I honestly dont think he can read me very well at all. It gets frustrating because I hate being accused of feeling's I'm not having and in all honesty, have no way to prove he is wrong because arguing with him about it just proves his point (in his mind although its just annoying to me). It's a catch 22 sometimes.
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Thank you for responding
that sounds like a nightmare, my friend is like that except we're just friends whereas you're married. That is something i always get stuck with when i am accused of thinking or acting a certain way that makes her nervous.... Like we could just be waiting in a queue at Burger King i'd be in a daydream and next thing i'd be acused of not paying any attention or being bored by her, when i reply i'm then being "annoying", "weird" or "bulls****ing" her.
It then escalates and i never know how to calm things down how do you calm your husband down, it seems like the more you speak the worse it makes it but walking away is just as bad or even worse cause then that will enable more accusations way out of proportion. I agree catch 22 indeed
Thank you again
Claire