Years ago I was so active and then was unemployed for a few years. I basically became a hermit crab that was depressed and lonely, and didn't even realize it. Then I finally got a job and realized that if I don't force myself to go out I will turn into that person I didn't like. I'm no social butterfly, but I will go out with mutual friends with my husband from time to time. I haven't had any close friends for years, I have trust issues.