Thanks guys I really think I'd be a wreck without all the support.

I sort of regret telling my mum now like I thought I would but hopefully it'll be ok. She told me she felt she had to tell my boss what happened incase he came in store apparantly he was disgusted. Another member of managment who was in the office though defended him and said he is dyslexic and probably just worded it wrong.
I don't know about that though his other messages before where clear and straight forward. The only indication that he may be dyslexic was that he uses alot of text talk. I don't know anything about dyslexia really though so don't know if thats even a sign everyone uses text speak these days. I think alot of you will know what it's like though once one person points something like that out it doesn't matter if every single other person says the opposite doubt will always plague your mind.

Another thing my mum said is if he genuinely meant nothing by it he would message her to explain himself since they know each other alot better than I knew him and he is friends with her on facebook. She asked if she could message him but I've asked her not to I told her I've told him what needed to be said. Wether she'll be able to stop herself I don't know lol. She also said that he's a very arrogant man and that I most likely hurt his pride by saying no to him so he replied in a way that would make me feel guilty and humiliate me. She also said that even if his intentions where completely inncoent and friendly it's still not appropriate to ask someone thats so much younger to come round when they are home alone.

I also have this big fear in my mind now. My mother mentioned that he has a terrible temper and that he beat a man up once because he slept with his wife. She quickly said though that he would never hurt a woman. Her saying this though made a memory resurface. I remember working with him one night until closing. Another lad was working with us aswel who I would say has learning dificulties that are fairly severe and he is extremely nervous and would never mean any harm to anyone. Anyway we where about 10 minuits before closing and this lad came to tell him he's switched all the ovens off. And he just looses it shouts and calls him a really nasty word (one of the worst curses words that mean a ladys privates). Apparantly the ovens were on a cleaning cycle and weren't finished yet and would have turned off automatically once done. The poor lad was terrified and so was I tbh. He did calm down though and told the lad who was appologsing over and over because he was so nervous to just forget about it that it's fine although I don't recall him appologising.
This happened around 3 years ago and I completely forgot about it until now.
Now I have this huge worry that he's going to see me at some point (probably when I'm in work) and confront me in the same manner. I work nights and I'm on my own on the tills usually everyone else is on the shop floor working. I know it's unlikely to happen but I cant stop from thinking it.

Sorry for another long post but it just feels so much better to write it all out, I'm no good at talking really so express myself better by writing. I'm off work tomorrow and spening the day with my mum so will tell her about this fear not sure what she can do about it but I've bottled things up in the past and thats never worked for me.