that is not okay for a therapist to do at all ever. a therapist is supposed to help you with your struggles and be a person you are able to trust. i don't agree that talking about trauma unless/until you are ready is okay for a therapist to push on a person either.

i would suggest not going back to that one and potentially even putting in a complaint as no doubt you aren't the first or only one that has happened to.

years ago, i saw a therapist who pushed me in ways that caused me to dissociate extremely as well as caused me to become suicidal (more than i was experiencing anyway). i didn't actually remember what happened in some of the sessions until i read some of my journal entries. one involved her talking to me in a baby voice, and she also told me i had demons in me. she was religious, and i had asked her to keep that out of it. i was so confused by it all that it took me months to stop seeing her...she actually tried to convince me she was helping me and to not stop seeing her (of course, because my parents were paying for the sessions).

i should have stopped after the first or second time because she was so harmful to me. i also should have put in a complaint.

there is no way a therapist should ever cause a person to feel unsafe or like their experience of trauma is their fault or is just them being sensitive or overreacting. that in itself is a type of abuse by re-traumatizing a person and completely minimizing their experience when they are seeking help for that very thing to begin with.