It sounds to me that you have chanced on some truly awful therapists to try out. It seems to me that therapy is a profession that needs a high level of skill and ability if the therapist is actually going to help someone and I think it's possible that the majority of therapists just don't have what it takes to really help.

I have had a first appoinment with 6 different T's. I think that the one I am seeing now really has something, which I felt from the start. She is really responsive and attuned to what I say and feel in a way that the others that I tried out just weren't. I think the only way to find a good T is to try out a few. I might advise steering clear of telling them anything about your trauma when you try them out, I know it's helpful to explain why you want to have therapy, but I think they don't really need to know that. I consider the first appoinment to be my chance to interview the T, and try out what it feels like talking to them.

For me a good T needs to have a kind of philosophy or way of being which is: 'I really genuinely like people, I respect and value difference, I really don't know how I can help someone, but I'm open to trying to figure out together with someone how us talking together could be helpful to them'.