Okay, well...that third one is bizarre and scary and completely about her not you. I can't even imagine what kind of technique that is, but from the effect it's had on you (as it would me), just stay away from that one.

The first one is like one I saw who caused a great deal of damage. Pushing like that is not helpful, but I didn't know that at the time. The one I see now takes things very slowly. She never pushes for information and if she suggests something that triggers me, she has me back off of it. It takes a lot more time this way, but it's safer and is actually having a better effect. I make slow progress, but it's perceptible.

The way I found this one was through a couple of friends who gave me the name of a therapist they'd talked about for years as being the best ever; well, I called that one and she was not taking any new clients, but she gave me three referrals (without even having seen her, she did that, which I think is pretty great), and one of those is the therapist I see now. I knew immediately that she would work great for me. None of that has changed, only gotten better.

Is there someone you know who you could ask for a referral from?