I'm not happy today. I hope I do not trigger anyone so please ignore this if you are already having a bad day.

I am beyond angry at my husband who just returned from a trip and was gone for a week with our son. I should be happy he's home but I'm not.

It took us 5 minutes to argue about money and his truck. It's a long story but his lack of planning becomes my emergency and I'm not bailing him out anymore. He told me this morning, I may have to miss my session tonight if his truck conks out on him.

He has had many opportunities to take care of this and still has that option today in fact. He just assumes I'm his back up because he doesn't want to ask someone at work to help him drop his truck off once he gets to work. So I told him on his voice mail that he needs to work this out and not make his problem my problem.

We differ over the temperature in our house. I like the air at 76, he wants it at 78 because well, he's a miser about money. So, we are back to playing our game of I put the temp down two degrees and he puts it up...this is Texas and I am hot. I'm not sure where the misunderstanding here is.

Last session, I was hyper and well happy but I remember T saying to me that he thinks I would be angry no matter who I am with. I'm guessing because of my issues with my dad and men in general.

I'm recalling that comment and am needing more clarification from him on this. When is it okay for me to be angry? Does any of the above make it okay?

T and I also talked about whether or not I want to be married. He always asks the thought provoking question of the day. He is justified in asking this question and it is mine to answer.

I guess I've convinced myself that I can't leave this marriage because of our son. So then I need to learn to deal with these annoyances. My husband isn't a bad guy at all, it just seems anymore that he and I are not right together.

We shouldn't be fighting over what I've posted here. The problem is he's quiet, shy and passive. I'm not any of those. I love being around people, friends etc. he doesn't. He acts as if we are poor and every cent must be tracked and analyzed. This is not true of our circumstances and this is driving me insane. He even repeatedly called my T's office manager one time to discuss the charges and at one point, the office manager was like 'stop calling'...jokingly of course but I get this from my husband all the time.

My husband then left me a note in my checkbook that fell out when I was giving the office mgr my check. It said 'pay this amount'...WTH? I am not a child and that was embarrassing. The interesting thing here is my husband stopped couples counseling with me and my T and refuses to go with me anywhere because he doesn't think we have any problems.

So now that the insurance is under him, he has no problem calling T's office repeatedly and embarrassing me.

Also, he is not a physical person if you get my point and I am. The list goes on. The interesting thing is he wasn't this way during our dating years. I mean his personality was but he always gave me what I needed and he was fun to be around.

Now, not so much...I'm trying to calm down before my session tonight but I'm escalating...