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FnordianSlip said:
i'm reminded of and excerpt from a televised psychology course that used to come on late on public telelvision in a place i used to live -

the situation... psychotherapist and therapee

therapee: "but i'm afraid that if i reject him, he'll be hurt."

therapist: " by merely rejecting him, you can't hurt him - that's voodoo. if he's hurt by your rejection of him, that's all on him. he is choosing to feel bad about it. you didn't make him do it."

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I have a bit of trouble with this. He is choosing to feel bad. Uh, yeah. Bad on him.

More accurate (IMO): I'm afraid that if I reject him, he'll be hurt and then he will hurt me.

I like truth. It helps in understanding things.

BTW, I am NOT blaming anyone here. (Except maybe the therapist, for missing the truth.)