My last LTR taught me that I'd much rather be single than be with the wrong person. Since then I haven't minded singlehood so much.

I think having BP means that the only way a relationship can really work out for me is if the person is in love with who I am at my core. Most dating sites and such focus on common interests and lifestyle, and for me, those things tend to change a lot. It seems like many people get connected on surface layer things, and my surface layers are ever changing. So I can't exactly forge a lasting relationship based on shared hobbies and such.

So what I figure is that if I'm meant to have a lover some day, then some day I will naturally grow a strong friendship with someone, and it will organically blossom from there.

But the mad flurry of "dating" based on your favorite band and political leaning is just not for me.