Meditation is good - take those deep breaths

There obviously is some disconnects between you and your husband but it doesn't sound hopeless - if he agrees to go back into counseling with you. Most times when their is a big issue, all the little issues seem to take a life of their own and drive you crazy.

From what you write, it looks like your "big" issue is that you are uncomfortable with his control issues. Sounds like you don't have much of a say in decision making. He probably has insecurities of his own that he has to act this way.

If he doesn't agree to more counseling you have a couple of choices. You can change your reaction to his actions. So if he turns the air down, just go turn it back up but don't let it heat you up (no pun intended!). It's tough with the insurance thing - you can talk to him and tell him that this is your doctor and you will handle any billing descrepanices with the office and see if that works. Your other option is to divorce - it will depend on how much all of this is effecting your mental stability and life.

be well (and keep breathing)

Tranquility