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brackenbeard · Oct 04, 2015, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by JIMMYJAM34

This is something that has been playing on my mind recently, it’s something I try not to think about as frankly it makes me depressed.

Basically it is my lack of achievement in life. I am 35 and for my 35 years have damn all to show for it. In your 20’s you tend to get away with it, in your 30’s you look like a failure and people do look down on you for it.

What do I mean by lack of achievement? Well things like a house, marriage, travel, hell I haven’t even been able to learn to drive. I am stuck in a dead end job on minimum wage going nowhere, I suppose you would call me one of life’s losers.

It’s not that I don’t try I do and have tried, but nothing ever works out no matter how hard I try. Even simple things like a diet or getting fit can’t stick at, instead I’d much rather eat junk food and drink alcohol to numb the pain of a worthless life.

I have had issues with anxiety and depression all my adult life, I am not sure if these are the cause or effect of the above but either way they don’t help my cause.

Any help or advice?

I think now might be a time to acknowledge what you have, and what others do not. I'm sure even though YOU feel you haven't lived up to your potential, just the fact you have money to eat cheetos, shelter, and a tv that's on to often

is reason to feel grateful. So many people cannot indulge in anything and struggle to survive on a daily basis. That's real, change the channel to cnn.

So you can wallow in sorrow about how things turned out, or you can set effective goals within the framework of the mental illness that you have. You have a job! Ok, for the moment, that's more than I can say for myself. Good job. That's huge, and if you don't believe me drop down a few groups to the schizophrenic section.

I totally believe you can realize realistic goals like owning a house. Pick one and remind yourself of where you're going, and how great it will be to reach that goal. Work towards it. If you don't feel good that will give you direction. I'm at my best when I have solid concrete goals, right now I don't, but I was just partially hospitalized. some slack please.

It's ok to fail. But don't lose sight of your goals. Keep coming back, and do a little at a time.

That's all I got. Back to Netflix for me.