I agree that sex is very important in marriage. I do not think orgasm is always essential though it is nice. Sometimes I tease my husband into a Quickie. I seldom orgasm but it is still pleasurable just to have him inside of me.

In the final analysis it is the duty of the wife to please her husband and the husband to please his wife, I am there for him when he needs it and he is there for me.

I do not think an affair is a good answer. It destroys trust and creates all kinds or other issues for women who need to feel loved and secure. I do not know to what extent you have been able to talk about your needs with her in a supportive environment, just that most women respond to that. We need to feel loved and important to our men

In the long run a sexless marriage probably will not survive, but I would still fight for it with everything I have. I know each person's situation is unique and one size never fits all. But having been abandoned and then going through divorce in my first marriage it was awful painful. I see it as a last resort

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Larissa