wish i could help! but i'm in a similar position! i don't know much at all about dating sites and to be honest i wouldn't put much faith in them. i found one for people with anxiety and mental issues after a quick search, called no longer lonely but not a clue if it's any good or not.

striking out on dating sites means absolutely nothing imho so i hope you don't feel down.
there are hundreds of thousands of members on them and many who are just superficial.
i bet you would do a lot better in real world situations.
but this is where i get stuck too because i haven't a clue on how to go about this!

the few times i have tried i just felt completely alienated and it put me off from trying again...for years!

hope it gets better for you and everyone else who's going through the same.