I'm not sure I agree with this either.............taking it to its logical conclusion would absolve us of all responsibilities in our behaviour towards others.

Og course some of my needs were met-friends meet needs in each other don't they? The problem comes when one wants it all on their terms,and worse still lies about what they're capable of doing ie they can make the effort for one person (because it suits them),but "can't" for another.

How can you respect someone's views when they tell lies and behave hurtfully ?(and know they're doing it!).