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Old Oct 05, 2015, 12:41 PM
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I've seen two tracks occur in my start-to-finish therapist relationships to date:

Therapist A:
1.—Develop Trust
2.—Develop Understanding and Mutual Respect
3.—Share Wisdom (that's on both sides)
4.—Healthy Graduation on both parts due to having gotten all that can be gotten, done all that can be done together, and knowing all that can be known from the connection, which was plenty, with what I got out of it still being relevant for me decades later.

Therapists B/C/D:

1.—Develop One-Way Trust (I have to trust, they never do)
2.—Develop Very Little Understanding (it's like they are talking to some other person most of the time, some fairly erroneously imagined person that they've decided I am)
3.—Sharing from one side only (mum's the word from them, and my words are meaningless because they don't allow themselves to actually know me in a meaningful way)
4.—Termination occurs after more than fair chance being given by me, concerns expressed, etc., due to my having a better than average ability to assess what possibilities do and do not exist in a situation despite whatever other issues may exist for me. My biggest problem is actually not bolting sooner when I realize things can't well pan out. I seem to be quite severely afflicted with loyalty and faith in human nature, qualities that in these situations can end up being more detrimental than not.
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.
Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
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