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It's my favourite advert. Women who are fat, old, young, have a disability, exercising. I love it. You don't have to look a certain way.

StbGuy, I did a PhD about 20 years ago and I know what you're saying. I was so happy when I finished and got a job. Workplaces are so different. Universities are not an accurate reflection of the outside world. It's cliquey, like school. Workplaces can be a little like that, but not as bad. There are single people, divorced, old, young, bald, fat, super fit, attractive, whatever. More variety. Humanity can be cruel but it can also be wonderful. I hope you find happiness in your own skin and someone who loves you for you.

When you get older the only reason you worry that your partner or lover is heavy is because you love them and don't want them to die of a heart attack. It doesn't stop you from loving them.