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Grammatical rant aside....
I don't know too much about my emotional side and I try not to delve too deeply into it. When I do I usually end up in some state between self-loathing and completely apathetic (which is different but closely related to neutral) and I call this my existential crisis mode. That being said, I try not to harbor or express a lot of feelings more than amusement (includes joking and sarcasm) (full-on happiness is kind of a myth to me), mild irritation ("well that pisses me off"), and general neutrality.
When I'm beyond agitated, I tend to tense up and become more snappish because I just want people to leave me alone and they won't. I sometimes want to throw things but:
1) I know I'll be reprimanded if I do, and that's enough to drive me into existential crisis mode which makes me feel much worse.
2) the tension is still there after I throw the thing (unless the thing is my phone and it happens to turn off the alarm when I throw it) and I feel stupid for having punched/thrown/slammed the thing and now it's all the way over there and I have to get it and I don't want to go over there. And then it ends up being broken or whatever and it's my fault and that's just annoying.
When I'm really angry, I cry and then I'm even more angry at myself for crying which in turn leads to more crying. Crying is annoying.
Happiness is similar. I'm really good at squashing down happiness, though when it's not so easy to squash down I'll go do a lap around the building of something and then I'll be back to neutral. I don't remember feeling particularly happy or excited when my band got straight superiors at district level my freshman year so we got to go to State, but I do remember jumping up and down and my parents were like "Whoa, she's excited. Haven't seen her like that before." I get happy for other things too but expression of blatant happiness is usually foreign. Actually I hate the word happy. Anyway.
Expression is annoying because then people react to your expression and then you have to react to their reactions and interacting with people is annoying (most of the time). I just had an interaction with my roommate about her duties in cleaning the bathroom. It's our turn. I did the trash can and the shower drain. She needs to do some part of it. She doesn't think she should have to and plans to start using the community bathroom (on the other side of the building and/or up a flight or two of stairs) all the time instead so that she doesn't hold responsibility for dirtying up the bathroom and therefore no obligation to clean it. I'm very agitated right now, but I can handle this level of agitation.
I realize probably none of this is helpful at all. XD
Other than perhaps I agree with your question. What is the point of emotional awareness techniques? When I think about emotions I usually end up manually dredging up thoughts and experiences instead of letting them flow naturally and that almost inevitably leads into existential crisis mode. When I journal I usually have a few topics I want to talk about and then I let myself get sidetracked by some tangentially related anecdote and then I get upset at myself for sidetracking, especially if it's a lengthy sidetrack, and this is usually reflected in my writing. I'm lucky I've managed to stay on topic for this long. (Or have I?)
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