The difference between age 29 and age 42 is not huge. In the case of you and this guy, though, the difference on life experience is huge. And he knows it, while you don't. You are being groomed by a guy who is smart enough to not push you too hard too fast. There is nothing innately evil about that. But he knows what he is doing, and he knows you don't.

When a guy gives a woman a massage while they hang out, he's sexually interested in her. And why not? Are you not an attractive young woman, who is available and missing the closeness that 10 years with a guy gave you? At age 42, he needs sex and is keeping his eye out for opportunities. He sees such an opportunity with you. He's circling around you and testing what you will be comfortable with. You were okay with coming to his house where he and his wife still live under one roof. Not all girls would be okay with that. And he is specifically looking for a girl who won't make objections to things he is only going to change on his own schedule. He sees you as a rare find because you're youngish without being too young and have no kids despite being of an age when women tend to have acquired some ties like that. So he's taking his time because he doesn't want to blow it.

Valentina, above, had an excellent point. If you'ld like someone to fill the sexual void in your life, you might want to go for it with this guy. But, as V. implied, don't get duped into thinking this is more than what it is. This guy is in the midst of dealing with a very screwed up life, while having an immediate need for a sex partner.

He doesn't have a lot to offer a woman other than sex. (along with being there for you, whatever that means.) The guy's got money problems. And he's got other problems. A woman with four kids doesn't dissolve a marriage for reasons like: "We just grew apart." Either he cheated on her, or she found a guy offering her a way better deal. Most likely, he cheated on her. Or he's a compulsive gambler, and was betting the rent/mortgage money. If you don't see some new man hanging around her, then she had to have some other real good reason to get that writ of divorce. He has no obligation to tell you right now what brought on the divorce, but it will be a real interesting thing for you to find out. BTW, the reason he tells you will be a spin story.

The main downside to taking up with this guy, IMO, is that, at age 29, you don't have a lot of time to waste. Each year you live, the pool of available good guys is going to get smaller. I'm sure this guy can give you some fast sexual satisfaction. But, if you are looking for more than that, you might want to pass him by.