It is unusual to begin self-harmin in adulthood but I started self harming at 45. I did not do anything deep - more like abrasions and scratches just deep enough to draw beads of blood. I have to wear long sleeves during summer because it is only when my arm is tanned that the marks seem to show up. While I don't hide my bipoar for a second, I do get embarrassed about the marks on my arm - that is until recently.

Several weeks ago a neice (14) tried to hurt herself and it was discovered she had been self harming for some time. In solidarity to support her I have begun exposing my own marks. I think it has helped her knowing that she isn't alone.