Hindsight is always 20/20, there's absolutely no point in beating yourself up. The only direction that leads is downward. It won't fix or change anything, but trying to forgive yourself is a much healthier path to try and follow.


Have you tried discussing these things with your children?


Your experience VS there's and how it interlinked....


I mean discussions without guilt, blame or shame of course.


Is it possible that your daughter's remark was more about her not understanding how you had so little insight and she was not attempting to guilt trip you?


I think if there's understanding on both ends, then forgiveness, whether from your children or toward yourself would be easier to achieve.


Take it easy on yourself, you did the best you could with the tools you had.