All of those sound scary. For me, when I first went to therapy (parents made me), the first session was sort of getting to know me and allowing me to ask my T any questions. The most pushing that happened in the first session was very minor about something in the past but just a touch base conversation about it. My T only started pushing me more over the past 2 - 3 weeks (I've been going for a year). Those sound very unprofessional. I think you should find a few and call them up and see what they say about it. It takes time to find the right therapist. Im so sorry about what you went through though.