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Originally Posted by ladytiger
I haven't been in here a long time. I broke up with the love of my life a month ago been together for 10 years due to drama bad drama one sided relationship. I don't hate him always will love him. I've been friends with this guy whom I've met this past July he reached out to me after he saw the crap my ex posted online asking if I needed to talk.
We talked he helped a lot I wanted to trust him and I can trust him. I've been texting him like everyday talking....flirting went to his place last night there was no sex at all just hanging out showing me his cooking stuff. He's so intelligent and sexy I got so turned on by his intelligence. He just turned 42 divorced with 4 kids lives with ex wife and the kids. I enjoy his friendship and conversations when I'm around him I get so giggly and smiley. He said if you ever need to talk I'm here for you.
He's not looking for anything he has his own crap to deal with and I'm not looking for anything serious or a relationship. Thing is he has minor kids I'm not interested at all in the white picket fence I don't want kids at all. He's a single dad I notice quite the difference with single moms he does mention his kids now and then but moms can't seem to shut up about the kids not talking about grown kids. Dads don't go on and on like moms do.
I didn't date much in my life I'm 29 kinda clueless on dating and the cues being given. So yea stuff I should know what are these odd feelings? My friends are like yea something is going on.
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Lady,
Smile, because everything is a okay, it is quite normal to feel feelings toward someone who is emotionally available. I am sorry that your former relationship was so bad, but it seems you may have moved on, also I am sorry he trashed you online.
I understand the whole thing about kids as well, I do have a 4 1/2 year old little girl, she is my life; however she is my one and only child and at 36 I will not have any more. I have lost two children (that is all I have to say about that.)
I had a brief relationship this year it lasted from January to July, what a mistake, we were engaged and everything. I jumped in because it had been two years since my separation from my ex-wife. I was lonely and guess I needed to get one of my three basic needs met (I will let you figure that one. I am not in anyway a user of people or a pig, just a disclaimer.) Any how if it wouldn't have been for that tryst, I wouldn't have met the wonderful woman that I am with now.
She is great for my recovery, the ex-fiance wasn't, she is supportive of my long-term goals again the ex wasn't. Her and I connect on a deep level, intellectually, sexually etc...
Also this man that you are friends with, from what I read, he sounds great but be weary. I get he is going through junk of his own but anyone who is still living with his ex, yes I am sure it could be for continuity for the children. All though it could be a slippery slope of jealousy. So throw out a bit of caution, please enjoy life. Life is meant to be enjoyed, live it to the fullest.
