I wouldn't worry about any harm to him...he put himself in that position.

I would suggest giving him his cigarettes, condom, and note back...ship them if you have to

I would also be assertive about your feelings regarding this really tacky action.

He is the one who should feel bad...not you...you shouldn't have to "protect" his feelings either...he certainly wasn't "protecting" you when he suggested this and he wasn't concerned about how this would make you feel.

Yes, I'm a bit agitated...guys like this make us look really bad. I hate that