Go to the authorities, get a PFA order (restraining order) against him, change the locks , take all your money out of the bank account if it's a joint one or he knows your bank account info, etc. I know it's hard but it can be done & it's life saving & necessary!!!! I've been there & I got away.....with 2 toddlers in tow. There's an organization called BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse) ....get in touch with them, for if there are children involved and they see/hear the abuse, that IS abuse of them as well. You'll be assigned 2 bikers to protect you & your family IN COURT and if need be, they'll come and camp out in your front yard. Here's the other piece of important advice I'll give you....IGNORE the SOB!!!!!!!! You want to hurt a narcissist where it counts? treat them like they NEVER existed to you EVER in the first place. My ex can't believe that I ever moved on without him but I did.....oh, and he's MISERABLE now..... a mutual acquaintance from the past told me this juicy bit of info about him. I shrugged it off like," Oh, that's nice".....but deep inside I was thrilled!!!! Karma's a *****!