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Originally Posted by Rose76
Your ex couldn't figure out how to get himself an apartment, nevermind a home. Guys don't usually get homes for women they're not married to. But promising stuff doesn't take any effort or cost any money.
You need the experience of managing a place of your own, like a small apartment. Then, someday, when you meet a decent guy with something on the ball, maybe the two of you will get married and eventually invest in a home together, if a home is something you would like.
This new guy you met is paying child support on 4 kids. Keep hanging out with him and you'll probably never have anything. He loves where his wife lives because he can't afford to move out of there. There is a pattern in your behavior. You hang around men who have zippo to offer - guys who are losers. Aim for better and you'll have a better life. At age 29 with a job and no kids of your own, you are a good catch.
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I remember another ex of mine said the same thing about my now ex yet he had an agenda to get me in bed after telling me I'm in love with you. My now ex said it takes money which is true but he had full time jobs before meeting me could've had his own place then.
He kept bringing up scripture says to be married he is Jewish. Our thing was to get a place together then get married he worried about what his parents thought about that. They would want us married of course ex wanted us to be married living in separate homes then get a place. Ex proposed to me in 07 I was his fiance then girlfriend then fiancé to engaged to dating. He said he wanted it special where people would see him propose to me. I said I don't care where just do it when it's right.
Yes I agree soon very soon I'll be moving. I told him lots of times if you don't want to be committed just say so or if you were never ready 4 a serious just say so he said you're the one I want. Why read about marriage yet you can't get it together? Of course I wanted to be married to him **** was still stagnant.
My sis did tell me in an email long ago do you want to spend the rest of your life taking care of someone who should be taking care of you? My ex said I listened to too many people I said if the information is bothering you then maybe you need to evaluate yourself.
I've met guys in the past who had jobs and their own places they offered controlling behavior had to be their damn way.