I had it explained to me once by a therapist that if we have unresolved feelings with an individual, we often seek out similar people so that we can eventually have closure. What often happens, though, is that we continue to get hurt by the same types of people.

Are you actively seeking out a relationship? If so, do you see a pattern in the women you choose? Be reflective (and honest with yourself) and try to figure out what it is in yourself that makes you seek out those type of individuals. I have told friends in the past, and had to take my own advice a few times, that you have to work on yourself first because another person cannot "fix" you. They add to you, they emphasize your good traits and help you be kind to yourself about the negative ones, they lift you up and support you when you need it. (And that goes vice versa, too)

I would say to focus on being the best you that you can be. The right person will find you...

Best Wishes!!

~Seanachai~