I see that you have GAD so you must feel terrified in those situations. Is your husband aware that its not just stressing you out? That it's putting you into fight or flight (sounds like you do the flight thing, which is the safest option when dealing with short tempered people). Me and my boyfriend have had some pretty explosive arguments and he is known to come bursting through the door to yell in my face so when any time there has even been the slightest bit of conflict between us I get anxious just hearing the keys in the door, so I know what you must be feeling, it is true fear. He needs to know how much he scares you. If you think you can get through to him so he can get help himself (youre not the only one with issues obviously, so he needs to see that about himself) then itd be worth talking to him about it. But if you feel he is tje type that says, thats just how I am, deal with it, then you may be better off getting away. In my opinion, his behavior is not on you or your mental illness, its on him. Someone without mental illness would be scared. Youre not wrong to feel the way you do, with or without MI. Its not how you feel that is the problem, it is his behaviors. Im just pointing that out, because i dont want you to feel like if you didnt have MI Youd be able to deal better and that you are somehow overreacting where you shouldnt be. Sometimes we do overreact because we do feel things more intensely, but in this case yoi not being able to handle conflict and confrontation is "normal". His behaviors are what need looked at.